Sometimes it's hard to talk about emotions. These tips can get you started.
Self-awareness is knowing your emotions, strengths and challenges, and how your emotions affect your behavior and decisions.
"I was very proud of you when your teacher told me you behaved so well in class. How does that make you feel?"
"It can be frustrating when that toy falls apart, can’t it? I get frustrated sometimes too. Let’s see if we can fix it together."
"If you need help, say, ‘Help,’ and I’ll be there to jump in."
"You tried really hard" or "I like how you didn’t give up" or "I could tell you were trying your best," rather than "you did well."
Self-management is controlling emotions and the behaviors they spark in order to overcome challenges and pursue goals.
"Please put your toys in the red bin, and your book on the shelf so that you will be able to find them easily and your room will look nice and clean. Thank you for being so helpful!"
The ability to interact meaningfully with others and to maintain healthy relationships with diverse individuals and groups contributes to overall success.
You can ask them, "Did you make any new friends at school?" or "Did you share your toys with your friend Freddy today?" or "Why did you get upset with your sister? How do you think that made her feel?"
Try "Freddy may not want to be your friend today, but give him some time, and if he doesn’t want to play with you, ask him why. If he is still not being nice to you, why don’t you play with your other friend Andy instead?"
You can say, "When I ask you to help me pick up your toys, I trust that you will do it," or, "When I drop you off at school, you can trust that I will come and get you every day."
If you ask them, and they say no, you can say, "It’s important for you tell me the truth and I promise that I will not get angry with you." You can add, "trust is when I ask a question and you are honest, and tell me what really happened."
"Why do you think your sister got upset when you called her a name? How did that make her feel? Do you think you should say sorry to her? What can you do next time so that you don’t make her mad?"
Responsible decision-making is the ability to make choices that are good for you and for others. It is also taking into account your wishes and the wishes of others.
"Do you want carrots or broccoli with dinner tonight?" instead of, "What vegetable do you want?" You’re allowing a choice, but both choices have outcomes you’d like.
You can tell them, "Do you see that security officer here in the mall? You can go to him for help if you get lost. Do you see that police station here by the park? If we ever get separated, they can help you find me."