Your Child Learns a Lot From You, So Be a Good Example
Think about how you interact with your family and friends, and how you make and keep friends. Is your behavior setting a good example for your child? Are there certain relationships or areas that you can work on? Evaluating your own relationship skills is a crucial step in teaching your child about social management, and by being reflective, responsive and supportive, you are helping to nurture your child’s sense of social and emotional well-being.
Cook With Your Child
Ask your child to help make their favorite dish by following your directions, one at a time. Make sure to say “please” and “thank you” and acknowledge all of their efforts. This will not only help their learn about the art of listening, but teach their about the importance of being polite to others, especially while working on group projects.
Always Take Time to Talk With Your Child About Her Day and Interests
Don’t be satisfied with one-word answers. Often, parents have a lot on their plate and are happy to keep discussions brief, but children need practice in expressing themselves clearly and completely. Make sure to point out when your child says something that is thoughtful or when your child uses their language skills appropriately. For example, when your child says something kind about others, like, “Sally was nice to me today because your child shared their snacks with me,” or if your child poses a good question during your conversation, “Can I take some snacks to share with Sally tomorrow?” When your child asks something that is not related to what you are talking about or not clearly expressed, help their stay within the conversation.
Work With Your Child to Find Solutions to Interpersonal Problems
A helpful approach is to ask good questions about what your child thinks your child should do in any situation, and what the consequences of their particular solution will be. For example, if they are having a hard time with a classmate, you can say, “If your friend doesn’t want to play with you, you might want to ask their if you did anything to hurt their feelings. Do you think you should say sorry? If you say sorry, your child might feel better. If your child did something to you, maybe you can ask their why your child did that.” You may not be around to solve any difficulties that occur, and it is better to start helping your child build this essential skill when they are young and problems are less serious.
Talk to Your Child About Friendships
Ask your child who their friends are, and then ask their about the qualities that your child looks for in a friend and how your child likes their friends to treat her. For example, ask her, “Why do you like to play with Jamal after school? What makes him a good friend?” Make sure to ask their about qualities that your child doesn’t like, and what makes their a good friend to others. For example, “Has Shannon ever said anything that made you feel sad?”
1st Grade Relationship Skills
Most children enhance their social management skills through their interactions and relationships with others, but parents can help them nurture these abilities.