Stress accumulates over time, so taking a preventative approach is a good way to manage it before it gets out of control.
You can be there for your kid by proactively helping them find resources for times of great stress. “When you’re in a state of overwhelm and totally stressed out, it can be hard to identify places to turn to for help,” author and parenting expert Ana Homayoun says. “If they can proactively identify them beforehand, they have an ’emotional toolbox‘ to turn to when they get stressed out.”
Brian Harke, a dean of students at the University of Southern California, says a big issue with college students is being afraid to ask for help. At colleges and universities, there are many resources on campus like school counselors and health centers to go for resources. If your young adult is not in a campus setting, there are other resources like crisis text line that they should be aware of.
When your young adult is stressed, you can be there for them to turn to for love, emotional support, and advice. NIMH suggests staying connected with family and friends for emotional support during stressful times. Make sure they know that they have people and places to turn to. “When kids go away from home, parents are very concerned about them finding the right resources,” Homayoun says. “Help them identify who are the people and places they can turn to in times of need for support.” Homayoun suggests finding “supporters and clarifiers” to anticipate these stressful times. “Supporters are people to turn to in a time of need, like peers or friends,” Homayoun says. “Clarifiers are trusted adults, like parents, aunts and uncles, or a mentor.” The supporters can offer someone to relate to and emotional support, while clarifiers can provide some perspective and experience in addition.”
Talk through a wide range of situations with your young adult, on both personal and professional topics. You can also highlight experiences you’ve had that didn’t follow your plans or expectations, but still worked out. It can be tough for young people to have perspective in challenging situations, as they haven’t lived as many years as you to understand that things do get better.
This guide is not intended to replace professional medical assistance or advice. If you have questions or concerns about your health or your child’s health, please contact your healthcare provider.