Pre-K Relationship Skills

The ability to establish and maintain healthy and rewarding relationships with diverse individuals and groups defines relationship skills. According to CASEL, this includes communicating clearly, listening actively, cooperating, negotiating conflict constructively, and seeking and offering help when needed. Learning to successfully interact with others is one of the most important aspects of a child’s development. Children learn and practice their social skills and nurture their relationship-building abilities by playing with their peers, siblings or cousins, as well as through their everyday interactions with adults and peers.

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During the pre-kindergarten years, children are learning very quickly. While children at this age may have short attention spans, they often learn best by being read to, playing pretend and observing others, especially you. By setting a strong example, you can show your child how to be socially and emotionally intelligent. 

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At this age, your preschooler will likely move from parallel play, in which your child might be playing alongside or near a peer but not with them, to associative play, where two or more children are playing in the same space, and sharing some play items. Your child should then move on to cooperative or group play, where your child plays together with other children and needs to communicate, cooperate, take turns, wait and share. Children progress differently through these stages, but by the time they enter preschool, they should be showing some signs of successful cooperative play. 

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When your child meets new people, they are learning how to interact with others and pay attention when they are speaking. As your child forges friendships, they are becoming better-able to identify the relationships they have and the traits of a good friend. 

Young Kids Playground

Although your young child may have difficulty expressing empathy when a classmate invades their space or takes their toys, an older child’s social management skills should be more developed. Group projects and team activities help strengthen these skills, but remember that this is an ongoing process and it may take some time before your preschooler is consistently able to share and be polite. 


How to practice social skills and nurture relationship-building abilities with your child.

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Keep in mind that every child develops at his own pace. Maurice Elias, director of the Social-Emotional Learning Lab at Rutgers University, recommends being watchful without overly worrying, as preschoolers are extremely different in their rate of development and your child may even excel in one area and lag in another. The concepts highlighted in this section are based on the five sets of competencies developed by the Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL). If you have concerns about your child’s development, please contact your healthcare provider, his teacher or school counselor, or visit our additional resources page


Social & Emotional Development

Research shows that those with higher social-emotional skills have better attention skills and fewer learning problems, and are generally more successful in academic and workplace settings. Like any math or English skills, these skills can be taught and grow over time.

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